Friends when you need them.
Hey guys,so today i would like to talk about "friends".We all have friends in our life,friends when we were still in school,friends in university and even friends from our workplace.Needless to say,we know that friends are important in our life,whether we are young or old.Our friends symbolise our self,want to see a religious person,look who are his friend,want to know who is a smart person?look at his friend.
But in my opinion,you can befriend anyone you want as long as that you don't follow your friends bad influence,if they have one.Make friends instead of enemy.But lately,as i was scrolling through my twitter,i see so much thread about people who don't have any friend who will help them when they're in tough time.They cursed their friend for not helping them.
A thought flew across my mind then,is it truly your friend fault?People really like to blame on others when they're having problems.Sometimes i think that it's not that our friend doesn't want to help us,it's just that maybe at that time,they're are having their own problem to deal with,human are naturally selfish creature.We wake our parents up when we were babies because we are hungry ,of course as a baby we don't know that waking up our parents is a hassle to them but do we care at that time?No,why?Because as i mentioned before,we are naturally selfish,it's just that when we get older we realise that selfish is a bad thing,but time to time we unconsciously be selfish.
I also sometime ponder where does all my friend go when i was having problem,then i realise,it's not my friends fault,it's my own fault and then to make my self feel better i blame it on others.While in truth i don't even tell my friends that i want their help.
So don't go blaming your friend to much when they don't respond to your call okay?Be husnudzon (have good thought) a little bit to them.Also forgive them,your life will be more at peace.Grudge and revenge will make your life unpeace,say you got your revenge,so what after that?You will feel empty as if there's a void in yourself,it's like your life is useless now that fire of hatred has been extinguish.So learn to forgive,i'm not saying it's easy but if you don't start now,when will you start?Before you go to sleep,forgive anyone that had ever do bad to you,repeat it everyday.
However,if our friend request our help,we should help them,by your means of course.Here's an advice,don't expect people to treat you like you treat them,sometime we unconsciously help them hoping that they will help us someday,don't have that thought because one day i assure you,you will end up dissapointed.Do it with "ikhlas",what does ikhlas mean?Ikhlas mean that you do something without expecting any reward from human,you just want Allah blessing.If you do thing with ikhlas,you will be dissapointed because you do thing because of Allah blessing and reward,not because of human reward.That's all for today.Have a good day.
But in my opinion,you can befriend anyone you want as long as that you don't follow your friends bad influence,if they have one.Make friends instead of enemy.But lately,as i was scrolling through my twitter,i see so much thread about people who don't have any friend who will help them when they're in tough time.They cursed their friend for not helping them.
A thought flew across my mind then,is it truly your friend fault?People really like to blame on others when they're having problems.Sometimes i think that it's not that our friend doesn't want to help us,it's just that maybe at that time,they're are having their own problem to deal with,human are naturally selfish creature.We wake our parents up when we were babies because we are hungry ,of course as a baby we don't know that waking up our parents is a hassle to them but do we care at that time?No,why?Because as i mentioned before,we are naturally selfish,it's just that when we get older we realise that selfish is a bad thing,but time to time we unconsciously be selfish.
I also sometime ponder where does all my friend go when i was having problem,then i realise,it's not my friends fault,it's my own fault and then to make my self feel better i blame it on others.While in truth i don't even tell my friends that i want their help.
So don't go blaming your friend to much when they don't respond to your call okay?Be husnudzon (have good thought) a little bit to them.Also forgive them,your life will be more at peace.Grudge and revenge will make your life unpeace,say you got your revenge,so what after that?You will feel empty as if there's a void in yourself,it's like your life is useless now that fire of hatred has been extinguish.So learn to forgive,i'm not saying it's easy but if you don't start now,when will you start?Before you go to sleep,forgive anyone that had ever do bad to you,repeat it everyday.
However,if our friend request our help,we should help them,by your means of course.Here's an advice,don't expect people to treat you like you treat them,sometime we unconsciously help them hoping that they will help us someday,don't have that thought because one day i assure you,you will end up dissapointed.Do it with "ikhlas",what does ikhlas mean?Ikhlas mean that you do something without expecting any reward from human,you just want Allah blessing.If you do thing with ikhlas,you will be dissapointed because you do thing because of Allah blessing and reward,not because of human reward.That's all for today.Have a good day.
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